Mommy Becca 2.0
Saturday, June 28, 2014
Rewind
After moving out when I was 18 because I knew everything and had a life plan that was sure not to fail I never thought that I would end up right back here. With my Barbie dollhouse right back where it was when I got it for Christmas when I was 7. I'm not sure what's more humiliating. The fact that I need my mommy to help me take care of my children or the fact that the couch that we paid exactly $0 for is sitting in a storage unit, unused. I guess the bonus to this is that I have figured out exactly how much stuff we really need to get buy.
Side note: I will be busy selling most of my stuff on the thrifty local Facebook yard sale group.
Saturday, June 15, 2013
The man I knew
Sunday, May 19, 2013
Accepting truth
My dad is dead. My dad is dead. I keep telling myself that but no matter how many times I say it I don't believe it. I can't accept the fact that after all these years of fighting cancer it all came down to one last breath.
It's so hard for me to accept. Maybe I am just as stubborn as he was. I never saw my dad sick when I was a kid. Of course he would get the occasional cold, but that's it. I never saw him sick. This only served to reinforce my view that my dad was superhuman. Even when we first realized he had cancer he didn't seem sick. Daddy never complained. If mom had not of said something I would have never known. Probably because I didn't want to see it.
Last year, daddy fell and broke his shoulder and hip and that's when they discovered how serious the cancer was. It was at that moment, when I saw him in the hospital bed that I realized just how frail he had become. It was then that I had to accept that my daddy was just human. I can never say that he was just a man, because in my book, he was not just a man.
Daddy and I had a special relationship. He would defend me when my mom was being too harsh. He would sneak me treats after school and it would be our secret. I was a tomboy growing up so he would show me what he was doing when he would work on his cars. Every Friday night after homework we would go to the mall and play in the arcade or watch a movie together. He was everything a dad should be to his little girl.
The best thing he ever told me is that he was proud of the woman I had become and that I was a great mother to my kids. All my life, all I wanted to do was make him proud and for him to tell me that meant the world.
I feel like I lost my person. You know, the one that you can go to and tell anything. The one who knew exactly what to do to make things right again.
My daddy is gone. And I am not okay.